This Australian writer shares her story of how consensual sex turned into rape

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Australian writer Lauren Ingram has penned an open and honest piece about her experience with rape and it's an important read for all

WARNING: The following content deals with sexual assault and may be triggering to some

In a moving article on news.com.au, Sydney journalist Lauren Ingram shared the painful experience of her rape, which occurred on Anzac Day in 2015 at the hands of a man who she had met shortly after her move to Sydney. 

She wrote:

“…I had been out socialising with friends and he messaged me, inviting me to hang out at his house and have pizza. I arrived, we ate and had a drink. Then he started kissing me.

“The sex started out as consensual. But then quickly he started to get rough. I said ‘ow’ and he kept going. I told him to stop, please, and he held me down, bit me and hit me.”

“When he was done, I got up, shaking. He was suddenly angry again, asking me where I was going. I said to the bathroom, where I sat for a minute and tried to work out what to do. I came out and he was waiting by the door, telling me to come back to bed. I lay awake, terrified, for the next several hours, trying to work out how to escape.”

It wasn’t until the next morning that Ms Ingram felt comfortable to leave, at which point, she wrote that her abuser turned to her and suggested they should, “do this again some time…Chilling, no? 

Ms Ingram later made her way to the hospital, where she was assessed and her injuries, treated – images shared alongside the article show Ingram’s neck and shoulders covered in bruises. 

Some weeks after the assault, the Sydney-based writer reported the rape to police and met with a detective:

“The first time I met with the detective, to do a formal interview, he told me my rapist was ‘just a kid who didn’t know how to have sex yet,’” she wrote.

Fast-forward to February 2017 and Ingram discovered that her rapist had secured a job with the NSW Greens “in a position that meant he had contact with young female volunteers”

For this reason, she decided to make a complaint, after which she learnt that other women had taken similar action for harassment or assault. 

However, she stated that the complaint didn’t lead to much:

“The party suspended his membership while an ‘investigation’ was ongoing, but the man left the state when questioned and the matter didn’t progress,” Ingram shared. 

“…he was protected and I was ignored,” she continued. 

It was for this reason, Ms Ingram decided to bring her painful story forward. As she put it:

“The systems failed me and the only thing I can now do is expose my pain to the world in the hope something will change.”

Read Ms Ingram's article in full here.

If you or anyone you know needs help ever, call Lifeline - 13 11 14. Support services can also be found here

Image: Lauren Ingram​ / Instagram

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