Emily Ratajkowski poses completely nude for a very good reason
Emily Ratajkowski wants women to own their sexuality as she reveals her childhood body shaming past.
You may know Emily Ratajkowski from Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines music video or maybe you remember her from Gone Girl as Ben Affleck’s character’s beautiful
and slightly crazy mistress. But now, you're about to get to Emily in a very different way.
The model/actress has posted on Lena Dunham’s newsletter wall, lenny letter, to talk about how she was shamed for her womanly figure as a child. The 24-year-old writes a powerful feminist piece encouraging women to define their own version of what ‘sexy’ is and not listen to outsiders:
“When I was 13, a close family member came to see my performance in a play. I remember feeling pretty -- tanned, wearing lip gloss and a red button-up ribbed top over my bra and a mod-style zip-up miniskirt from Forever 21. Our family member sobbed to my mother and me at dinner after; she was worried for me, worried about the looks I got from men, because I was wearing what I was wearing. I needed to protect myself, she explained. The same year, my parents hosted a dinner party where I spoke freely, keeping up with the mature humor and storytelling, an only child comfortable sharing my conversation with adults. On my way to the bathroom, before dessert, an older family friend took me aside, separate from the rest of the party: "You need to hide out, a girl like you, keep a low profile." Whatever that meant. I truly believe he felt he was being protective, helpful even.”
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“I see my naked body in the mirrors of all the places I've lived, privately dressing, going through my morning routine. I get ready for my day as one of my many roles in life -- student, model, actress, friend, girlfriend, daughter, businesswoman. I look at my reflection and meet my own eyes. I hear the voices reminding me not to send the wrong message. And what is that message exactly? The implication is that to be sexual is to be trashy because being sexy means playing into men's desires. To me, ‘sexy’ is a kind of beauty, a kind of self-expression, one that is to be celebrated, one that is wonderfully female. Why does the implication have to be that sex is a thing men get to take from women and women give up?"
“I think of mothers trying to explain to their daughters that while it wasn't their fault, they should cover up next time. I refuse to live in this world of shame and silent apologies. Life cannot be dictated by the perceptions of others, and I wish the world had made it clear to me that people's reactions to my sexuality were not my problems, they were theirs. Honoring our sexuality as women is a messy, messy business, but if we don't try, what do we become?"
It’s a powerful piece from Emily, reminding women everywhere that they are free to express their sexuality on our own terms. On the eve of her open letter, the stunning actress posted a nude pic of her on the balcony.